Category Archives: RestrainedElegance.com

Changes and Censorship

This is just a brief post to explain why there are user interface and layout changes going on at Restrained Elegance, especially on the free preview area.

As you’ve probably heard, the UK has a strict new censorship regime. Well, we just received a tap on the shoulder from the censor. I can’t say too much more publicly at the moment, except to say that we are taking legal advice. I’ll let you draw your own conclusions about the changes on the site.

It’s not all doom and gloom- I’m going to take the opportunity to roll out a minor facelift to bring the site up to date and to make the browsing experience better on a range of devices like mobile phones.

Please bear with us, and we will be more forthcoming about exactly what’s happening when we’ve finished legal consultations and we’re further along the process. We are NOT going away. We are proud of our silly little website and our silly little community of photographers, film-makers, models, bondage enthusiasts and fans and we are going to do everything in our power to preserve our online community.

Tutorial Video Requests

Hi Everyone,

We’ve just started shooting a new round of tutorial videos, drop by on the forum thread to let us know of anything you’d particularly like us to see.

How to handle stills in post production, doing the colour correction and other tweaks that give shots the final polish is a very popular suggestion. I’ve just shot one on focal length choices and will do one of depth of field and aperture choices as well soon too.

Are there tutorials you’d like to see on the bondage, rigging or modelling sides?

What about the video side? Is there any interest in a video showing how and why we do the colour grading for our films? It’s the same process as stills in some ways but the tools are rather different, would you like me to cover the basics of how I approach it in a tutorial video?

Cheers, Hywel & Ariel

Humiliation video

Hi Everyone,

Bit of an experiment today with a humiliation video that doesn’t have bondage in it. I’d be very interested to know what you think. RE is a bondage site, but Ariel and I thought this pure humiliation idea was very cool. What do you reckon? It is ages since we shot a more experimental BDSM film without any bondage in it. Did you like it?

I’ll take the opportunity to reassure nervous types that we’ll only ever shoot this sort of thing occasionally. What do you think? It is a good idea to cast our net a bit wider once or twice a year?

What We Did On Our Summer Holidays

Hi All,

If you are in the appropriate hemisphere, I hope you’ve just got back after a long and pleasant summer holiday, refreshed and ready to go to work.

We’ve actually just got back from a very intense few weeks of shooting, so I’m planning to have a few days off to recover. But I think you’ll agree our “summer holidays” were very productive when you see some of the things we got up to!

In the last few weeks we’ve had Hannah Claydon back for three days of shooting, worked with new (to us) models Katie Thornton, Samantha Bentley and Jenny Smith, run a tutorial for a lovely photographer from the USA who is just starting out making his own site, had a week away in Spain shooting with the gorgeous Natalia Forrest, had a couple of days shooting with just Ariel and me, and another with our kinky neighbour Zoe Page, then three days with the ever-cheery Penny Lee including shooting the outdoor scenes for new Elegance Studios video Pony Girl 3, again sponsored by the lovely custom video chap who helped us fund and shoot the first two parts, and ably assisted by our other kinky neighbour, Michael Stamp. It’s been a busy summer!

Here are just a few samples from some of those shoots to give you a taste of what’s coming your way on SilkSoles.com, RestrainedElegance.com and EleganceStudios.com this autumn!

Cheers, Hywel and Ariel

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Cultural Appropriation

Why I will not be taking this photo down

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I posted this photo on Twitter, with accompanying text which read “New at http://SilkSoles.com this week: gorgeous @toychloe barefoot in the Oriental room!”

Someone replied that this was problematic, and identified two specific issues, assuming I have understood correctly. 1) Use of the word “Oriental” and 2) A white girl in a kimono as cultural appropriation. I was urged to do some research. So I have, and this is what I conclude thus far.

The Word “Oriental”

I apologise for the offence caused.

The Wikipedia entry for “Orient” mentions that the term “Oriental” is often considered an antiquated, pejorative, and disparaging term in North American English. I was not aware of this. I speak British English, being British; note that the Wikipedia entry makes no such mention for British English. The OED however notes that it is offensive when used of a person. I’m happy to update my use of language to avoid causing offence in future. I don’t much like being called “Taffy” or listening to the n-th joke about sheep shaggers, so it seems only reasonable.

In point of fact I was not using it of a person, but of an artistic style, orientalism, which pertains to a fashion in vogue at the time our Georgian house was built. I described the ROOM as “oriental”. There very likely was an “oriental” room in the house originally, and previous owners of the house have maintained something of that style of decor. I will henceforth call it something else, but will not be in a hurry to redecorate the room, because we like it, we might have to ask permission to do any such thing, and besides, it’s pretty.

A White Girl In A Kimono

Here I’m afraid I must disagree with my correspondent.

All people of all cultures have drawn inspiration and innovation from other cultures, throughout human history and indeed before. We are all human beings, and we should all be allowed to draw inspiration from cultures we were not born into.

White girls should be allowed to wear kimonos. Nigerian girls should be allowed to wear Ancient Greek Peplos. I have photographed Swedish, Romanian and Scottish girls wearing Cheongsams. I’ve photographed Italian people wearing historical Viking dress and English women wearing Togas. I’ve photographed Dutch men wearing dress traditionally considered appropriate for women; were they culturally appropriating the clothes of a traditionally oppressed minority? No, they were just doing something they enjoyed.

Should I have been offended at the cultural appropriation of English people wearing traditional Welsh dress at school Eisteddfods? Why should I? It’s not in any meaningful sense mine, even though I was born and raised in the country from whence the tradition originates.

I’m no moral authority, but I do have a silver rule to back up the golden rule. Replace all labels by the word “person” or “people” and see what I think of it then.

“Should a white girl be allowed to be photographed wearing a kimono?” becomes “Should a person be allowed to be photographed wearing a kimono?”. Yes they should. Anybody who wants to should be able to.

What is the alternative? Not shooting those photos with that model, I guess. Does that mean we should racially segregate the models who come to work with us? We’re planning to redecorate one room in our house (currently decorated with sailing ships and clouds) in the style of Norwegian folk art mixed with a bit of Jelling Style because I happen to like it and I want to try painting some things in that style myself.

Is it OK for me to do that because I have Scandinavian genes? (My father has an inherited condition which is associated with Viking genes, and one branch of the family name is of clear Nordic derivation). Or is the admixture of Celt such that I’m not allowed to use that for inspiration any more?

Once we have the Norwegian room, will it be OK to shoot the blue-eyed blonde British models there? What about shooting a model of Japanese ethnicity there, wearing traditional viking clothes with shoulder brooches? Polish models? Spanish models? Models whose family origins are from Iran? Russia? The Ukraine?

Saying that only models of a certain ethnicity or cultural origin are allowed to model in certain outfits or certain rooms in our house is unacceptable to me.

And let’s examine the Kimono in that photograph. It is a kimono in the following two senses (again, after Wikipedia). 1) It is a thing to wear, which is the literal meaning, and 2) It is similar in design to the traditional Japanese garment of that name.

It was designed and sewn by a British person based on a pattern designed by a European (inspired by that traditional Japenese style), from fabric made in India. That fabric is a synthetic one invented in Britain (or at least most likely descended from a material invented in Britain) but designed to look like a traditional Chinese fabric in texture and also with a design inspired by Chinese tradition.

There’s a long history of colonialism and bloody war between many of those civilisations.

The kimono itself, according to Wikipedia, was heavily influenced by traditional Han Chinese clothing. So should Japanese people even be allowed to wear them, since they are apparently culturally appropriated from China? What is the statute of limitations on how long ago a borrowing has to be before it becomes legitimate?

This is nonsense. Throughout history we’ve all begged, borrowed and stolen inspiration from each other, all the time and in all directions. We are all human beings. We should be allowed to. It is one of the most fertile sources of innovation we have.

So yes, I am good with 1977 London Punks appropriating Tartan, boys going to school in skirts, African Americans joining in the SCA and enjoying themselves pretending to be Medieval European nobility without the bad bits, Germans wearing Shalwar Kameez, Chinese people wearing dhotis, Jordians wearing saris, Japanese teenagers wearing jeans or suits, Swiss teenagers wearing muu’muu and British teenagers wearing fashions inspired by French and American designs from the 1950’s… and doing what the hell they like to them to give them their own personal twist.

Fusion cuisine is great. I’m happy for English people to make Bara Brith, Cawl or Welshcakes and put whatever twist they like onto it… and sell it in their recipe books. Again I have no more say or authority over who should get to adapt cawl recipes than any other human being on the planet, despite it being a historical staple of great importance to my oppressed culture. I have no more “right” to it than anyone else on the planet. It’s a thing, an invention of other human beings (who are all now dead, as it happens). It doesn’t have the rights and protections of person, and nor should it.

Consumption of food derived from agriculture should not be restricted to those from the either the fertile crescent or the area Iran where it was (likely) independently invented; once the idea spread, it belonged to all of us. One should be allowed to enjoy a Birmingham Balti or a sushi derived dish whatever one’s ethnicity. Welsh people should be allowed to eat pasta. It shouldn’t be restricted to Italians… or possibly Greeks.

More power to everyone’s creative elbow and have fun. And the same with fashion fusion, too. We will continue to put any model into any outfit in any room regardless of their ethnicity or cultural background, and tie them up in ways inspired by and derived from Western bondage traditions, Japanese bondage traditions, and any other thing we feel like trying.

(Incidentally, I am aware that research does not end with Wikipedia. But it is a good place to start.)